It’s 1am so I’m sorry for the people who won’t see this. But if you want confidence and don’t know how to get it, a really good way is to be confident in other people. When you walk into Starbucks, think, “damn, that barista’s hair is da bomb!” Or when you go to school, think, “my teacher is rocking that skirt!” When you start seeing everyone as being beautiful, at some point you realize that you’re everyone too.
Let me tell you about a thing.
Dude I met on Sunday at this church dinner was all
While I was just
And then tonight we’re stuck with a group in a long car ride, and we’re talking like normal human beings, and he’s just
"You’re pretty silly. Pretty and silly."
I tried to present less awesome sides of me. He’s big on working out and eating healthy, so I went on about my bad sleeping habits and worse eating habits.
But he was just
So I rode in a different car home, and he texts me “I enjoy talking with you, you always get me to smile…”
oh nooooooooo. noooo. I know this feel.
I handled it by writing him and saying ‘you are making me uncomfortable please stop’ but he had gotten as far as like trying to hold my hand (and kiss my hand??) and liking every post I made on facebook before I did. He never came back to our church.
I’m sorry that isn’t very helpful. I just.. church hittings-on are the worst, and I’d say just ignore him and be constantly busy. Smile and nod and be polite and then kindly excuse yourself to be around different people. Get a friend in on it so they can help pull you away? aaahh good luck I hope your dude is easier to stop than mine was.
I want to be able to have good things happen to me without feeling oddly sad afterwards?
I want to be able to focus on moving forward.
I want to be able to let things just roll off like water on duck feathers.
I want to be able to clean my house and do art and live life like a regular person.
Can I just shut it off already?
On the plus side I actually made a sandwich for lunch so that’s cool.
And because nobody asked, I feel like I’m like 80% female and 20% ???? “who even knows what the fuck”???, and usually I don’t care or think too much about it but when it comes up, I don’t even know. And I never know if it’s just the internet making me question way too hard or what. I’ve been meaning to post about it awhile but I’ll do it later, I’m way too exhausted right now and work is upon me.
asked by Anonymous
The crazy thing about both fantasy and science fiction is that they can be used as tools to explore the problems of our own society through many different lenses. Having a setting where everyone is equal and that whole issue is ignored would be the bigger crime, in my eyes. Just replacing racial tensions with orcs vs humans only says one dimensional things about the human condition.
Having more fantasy that isn’t just aryan/norse power fantasies is a really exciting idea to me. Why not a fantasy setting that reflects a different world view of the pre columbian exchange world? Doesn’t that fascinate you?
Thinking about it drives me fucking nuts in the best way possible.
(Scifi add-on: Plus, using white American kids with superpowers as an allegory for racism is at least a couple layers of dumb.)